Hi beautiful friend,

I hope you are having a great week. Before we talk about this week’s episode, I want to share a story about me with you.

For so many years, I believed being a “good woman” meant putting myself last. It was acceptable, it was expected, and that word, expected, haunted me. I carried the pain of not feeling enough in silence. On the outside, I showed up, sometimes skinnier, sometimes unhealthy. I always managed to look “fine” but inside, I was in a war with myself that most people could not see.

I became very good at complying with the system, the roles, the rules, the performance. I was not aligned with my own needs, my feelings, or even my beliefs. I spent years in treatment, and even then, the pendulum swung in different directions, because healing is not linear, and the nervous system does not forget overnight. What I did not understand back then was this, my patterns were not proof that I was broken, they were proof that I was trying to survive.

One day, I reached a moment where I had to look at myself with radical honesty. I had to admit that I was settling, settling for a life that looked “right” while feeling wrong inside. I had to accept that I was meant for more, that is deserving of more and that “more” had nothing to do with anyone else’s expectations. It had everything to do with coming home to myself.

That is when things began to change.

I stopped making my choices a life sentence, a consequence of my trauma, my past, or my pain. Not because those things did not matter, they did, but because they could not be my excuse anymore. I decided to take full responsibility for my life, not in a punishing way, but in an empowering one.

Because responsibility is not shame.

Responsibility is leadership.

It is the moment you say, I am in charge of my life, and I get to choose again, even if yesterday was messy.

In today’s podcast episode, we talk about this exact thing, the inner “board meeting” we all have in our minds. The voices that try to sabotage us, sometimes with harshness, sometimes with sweetness. We talk about the difference between grace and self abandonment, between rest and quitting, between compassion and giving away your power.

Here is what I want you to remember,

You are allowed to have a bad day.
You are allowed to be human.
You are allowed to give yourself grace.

Grace does not mean you are sabotaging yourself.
Grace means you are learning to stay with yourself, instead of turning against yourself.

So if you have been living under the weight of “expected,” if you have been fighting silently, if you have been trying to earn your worth through perfection, this episode is for you.

Go listen, and as you do, I want you to ask yourself one simple question,

What would change in your life if you led yourself with love, and with consistency, for the next 90 days?– 

We are all in this together, and we rise higher, we heal deeper, and we fly further when we choose to embrace and support one another.

Thank you for being part of this community, and for walking this path with me.